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This Is What A Successful Person Looks Like



If I were to ask you to close your eyes and imagine a successful person, what is the first image that comes to your mind? Most people will describe images of a good-looking person wearing expensive clothes, driving a nice car and having achieved wealth, fame and power. Perhaps they came from rich families and went to Ivy League schools after having been raised by loving parents in upper-middle class suburbia. Most people would probably describe a successful person in such a way because the world tends to define success based on money and material possessions. That’s understandable and there is nothing wrong with being wealthy but money isn’t the only measure. We might also agree with the description above because that is how a successful person is typically portrayed in the media and is similar to what people call the American Dream. We’ve been conditioned to think of successful people this way.

The truth is that there is no standard description of what a successful person looks like.  That’s because success is not defined by what you wear or drive and it’s certainly not dependent on where you grew up or who your parents were.  If I took you to an airport and asked you to pick out the successful from the unsuccessful, you wouldn’t be able to do it.  Success doesn’t care what you look like, whether you’re male or female or even about the color of your skin.  Success doesn’t care what neighborhood you grew up in or how popular you were in school.  There is no success gene and people are not born with a pre-disposed ability to become successful or wealthy.  Rather, people achieve success because of who they are and who they have become.

“It’s not about your looks or your past but is instead about your personal characteristics.”

This is what a successful person looks like:

A successful person keeps goals and a to-do list while the unsuccessful person is easily distracted and unfocused. A successful person talks about their ideas and shares useful information with others, while the unsuccessful person likes to talk about other people and regular shares criticism. A successful person makes time for personal development by reading books and listening to audio that will help them grow as an individual, while the unsuccessful person prefers to watch a lot of TV and spend hours playing video games. The successful person is not afraid to fail and always learns from their mistakes rather than blaming others for their failures. The successful person wants others to succeed and compliments others rather than feeling threatened by someone else’s success. A successful person seeks to build positive relationships with others and learns from those that have gone before them rather than trying to look like they know it all. A successful person is confident enough to show real humility and gratitude instead of trying to come across as successful and as better than everyone else. A successful person hustles and works hard at developing new skills and good habits.  They have patience and they persist because they understand that success doesn’t come easy so they are willing to put in the time necessary to achieve results.  The successful person takes action, makes progress and makes things happen.

Success, you see, is not about what a person looks like but rather it’s about who that person is.

It’s about what they do rather than what they own. The thing that separates the successful and the unsuccessful is what takes place inside their head and it’s not based on genetics or the neighborhood they grew up in. I’m fully aware that some cities and schools do more to help kids become successful than others and that poverty, drugs and violence are very real issues. I myself grew up in such an environment and saw more than my fair share of these things. But I have also realized, that in spite of all these external things, anyone can achieve success if they want it bad enough and are willing to do the things necessary to transform who they are.

Success is not easy, but it’s possible!  Quit making excuses.

Words of wisdom from Gary Vaynerchuk on the myth of overnight success.


The 4 Best Online Tools For Learning Anything Today


We live in an amazing age where you have the power to learn just about anything you can think of; all from the palm of your hand.  Knowledge IS Power and in today’s fast paced world we need to use the new ways of learning to keep our skills and knowledge up to date.  Luckily, there are plenty of ways to do this online and most are affordable and efficient.  There is no shortage of information and the amount of new content being generated each day is staggering.   It’s easy to get information overload but we still have a responsibility to sort through it and learn continually.

I love learning new things and am a dedicated life-long learner.  Here some of the best mobile platforms for expanding your knowledge and to help you learn anything today:


Yes! The world’s second biggest search engine has information on anything you can imagine. It’s great for getting quick and brief info but if you want to teach yourself a more complex skill, you’ll spend a lot of time searching for and piecing together the collection of videos needed. You may not, it may not always have the latest information and the video quality may be an issue. Nevertheless, I use it almost daily and subscribe to many channels. Best free resource other than search engines.

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Online Learning Platforms

It seems like every day there are new platforms being introduced offering a variety of topics. I like these best for learning technical skills such as coding or for replacing the traditional hotel ballroom seminar setting. These sites usually have a free trial version but most are a paid subscription for full access. Here are just a few that I have used personally and really enjoyed.  Links to the sites provided:

  • Udemy – For Anything – Paid mini courses on everything and anything.  My favorite!
  • TeamTreehouse – Great for learning programming and design.  I’m a huge fan.
  • Coursera – Mostly free courses on anything but great for business, technology and sciences.
  • Kahn Academy – For Anything from basic math to high level sciences.
  • Udacity – Great for Technology and Sciences and supported by companies like Google.

An investment in knowledge always pays the best interest  

– Benjamin Franklin

Mobile Apps

Most of these learning platforms also have a mobile app counterpart but there are also a bunch of App-Only platforms that are great for learning.  One of my favorites is Duolingo, which is a free app for learning a new language.

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Books and Audio  

In addition to using these online and mobile platforms, some of the best time-tested ways to learn new information is through books and audio programs. In addition to my physical book library, I really enjoy using my iPad to read e-books or using my phone for listening to audio books on the Audible app. A great feature is that Audible lets you increase the speed in which the book is read to you.  This makes it really easy and fast to get through a book while doing something else, such as yard work or driving!

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And finally there are Podcasts. You can find a podcast on any topic and there are many good ones out there. Do an online search for the best recommended podcasts on the topic you want to learn more about.

Whether you’re sitting on a plane, driving to work or relaxing by the pool, there are no more excuse for not being able to learn anything and also at your own pace.  You have the world’s information readily available to you and there are amazing tools to help you gain knowledge on any topic. Leverage these for your success and use them as a way to SHARK Belief Your Life!

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How To Take The First Step Toward Your Goal

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Ever wish you could work your dream job?  Dream of pursuing your passional with 100% focus and energy?  Many people want to follow their passion but are often afraid to do it or don’t know where to start.   The fear of failure or lack of knowledge can be big obstacles that hold us back. We would all pursue our dreams if we knew beforehand that we would be successful doing it.  Most often, we have limiting beliefs such as:  “It probably won’t work”, “I could never do it”, “I don’t know where to start”.

Here are a couple of simple tips using key SHARK Belief elements to help you get started:

Tip # 1 – Determine Exactly What You Want

Decide what it is you would like to be doing and what that looks like.  How would you like to be living your life or what do you want to accomplish?  It sounds obvious but this is a step often skipped over by those pursuing success.  This is all about having an Aim and knowing what your actions are for.  The first step is to set your focus and begin directing your thoughts and energy to one thing.  You don’t turn this into a big project so just describe it to yourself or someone you trust in simple terms.  How will you know when you’ve been successful?  If you don’t know where you’re going, you will end up some place else.

Tip # 2 – Connect With Others

Get out and meet people who are already doing what you want to be doing and who are also making money from it. Spend time with them, observe them and learn from them.  The best way to get started is to connect with other like-minded individuals.

Several things will happen: By meeting with them you’ll find out how they got to where they are and your knowledge of how to do it yourself will go up.  Additionally, by seeing others do what you want to do will change your beliefs and you will have more confidence that you can do it too.

By following these two simple tips, you see chain reaction that will propel you to take further action.  We have a tendency of overcomplicating things and in our pursuit of success, it’s easy to fall into the trap of paralysis by analysis.  The only cure for this is to take action.  The doubts will begin to go away and the sky will start to clear the moment you begin to pursue your dreams.

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SHARK Belief is simple, but not always easy

This methodology will help you break it down and simplify your path your path to success.  In the two tips above, you can quickly see several of the SHARK Belief elements at work: Aim, Relationships, Knowledge and Beliefs.  It’s amazing how they work even better when you combine them.

To reach your goals and dreams, you have to know how to do it (or how to start) and you also have to believe that you can get there.  If you don’t know where to start or believe that you can do it, you’ll never take the first step.  Follow the tips above to get you started or to get you back on track in pursuit of your dreams.

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SHARK Belief Your Life!

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How To Transform Yourself – 3 Tips


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One of the most incredible freedoms you have is the ability to change who you are and what you can do.  Everyone has this amazing power to transform themselves yet it is probably one of the least used powers today.  Most people have settled with who they are, what they have and what they have been able to accomplish.  They’ve quit pushing themselves.

By nature, most us resist change and would rather stick with the status quo.  But for those of you who want more, those that dream big and aren’t afraid of change, here are some tips and basic principals to be aware of.

90% of  transformation takes place in the mind

One of nature’s most incredible creatures is the butterfly.  It enters the cocoon a slow fat caterpillar and soon emerges a majestic and colorful butterfly with wings that can take it anywhere.  While we don’t have the capacity to physically morph into another being, we all have the incredible ability and freedom to transform our minds.

Your beliefs limit what you think is possible for your life and will drive much of what you do over the course of your life.  The types of goals you set, the sacrifices you make to achieve something big, the amount of money you earn and even the kinds of friends you have will all be influence by your beliefs.  The good news is you have the ability to influence and transform your beliefs, which will ultimately transform your life.


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Next time the Yankees play the Red Sox, look at the sold-out crowd and try to pick out the millionaires, the CEOs, successful entrepreneurs, accomplished authors, or the political power brokers.  You won’t be able to do it because much of what makes these individuals successful is what is in their minds.  Sure, some drive nicer cars, can afford better seats or fancier clothes, but if they were all dressed in the same sports attire and standing in the hotdog line next to you, you couldn’t tell them apart from anyone else.  The point is that success begins in the mind.


Transform these three areas to accelerate success

Your knowledge  

Depending on the goal you have set for yourself or the person you wish to become, you will need more knowledge that is specific to your goal.  In today’s world of readily available information, free online tutorials and countless universities, there is no longer the excuse of not knowing what you need to know.  Begin to focus on what you need to learn, seek out the information you need and see how quickly you will begin to transform your mind and confidence in what you can accomplish.  Never stop learning.

Your Habits

A large part of our day to day activity is done on autopilot and this is due to all of the engrained habits and routines we’ve accumulated over the years.  There are good habits and there are bad habits.  Determine which habits or routines would help you reach your aim and being to set those new habits in your life.  It is the cumulative effect of consistently working on establishing a good habit that produces miracles.  Tackle one at a time and slowly but surely, you will build a solid foundation of good habits that will transform your life.

“If you keep doing what you’ve always done, you’ll keep getting what you’ve always got.”

Your Skills  

Never say “I can’t do that” or “I’ve never been good at that”.  The truth is, you can learn just about any skill given the time and effort.  Learning more about effective techniques, setting aside time to practice and develop, committing to regular and consistent improvement & not fearing failure will all lead to you developing skills.  Focus on the skills you need to reach your goals and start with one.  Then over time, you can build on that and add new skills.  The most successful among us are the most skilled at something.



Commit to Life-long Development

Most people think personal growth and development stops when they finish school.  In today’s fast paced, ever-changing world, it is critical to stay ahead by constantly learning new skills and gaining new knowledge.  Be one of the few that will continue to improve throughout their lives.  Become obsessed with improvement and you can become anything you put your mind to.  No matter how long it takes or how hard it gets, it’s ultimately up to you.

Is Knowledge Power?

Living in the Information Age means we have an unimaginable amount of information available to us at the touch of a button.  Even the vast libraries of 100 years ago pale in comparison with our access to online video tutorials, podcasts, e-books and countless mobile apps.  With sites such as Google, YouTube & Wikipedia, it’s easy to get information on anything at anytime.  You can have just about any book shipped to your door within days, assuming you can’t download it and start reading instantly.

However, with these advances in information technology, we now find our struggle is information overload.  There is an old saying that says “Knowledge is Power” but is that really true?  The short answer… Knowledge is Potential Power.  It really depends on what kind of knowledge you have and how you use it.  It takes more than just “knowing”, which is also why Knowledge is just one of the six elements in the SHARK Belief recipe for success.

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There are two primary types of knowledge:  General Knowledge and Specialized Knowledge.

General knowledge

This is what we get in school.  We learn a little about a bunch of different subjects.  We’re taught basic skills such as reading, arithmetic & writing.  We’re taught to memorize facts and to do some problem solving and reasoning.  However, we all finish school with a bunch of general knowledge and very little specialized knowledge.  The problem with this is that the world demands specialists!  Schooling does little more than teach us how to learn and how to acquire practical and useful knowledge.

“An investment in knowledge pays the best interest.”  – Benjamin Franklin

Specialized knowledge

This is information that is specific to helping you reach your goals and purposes.   Acquiring specific knowledge is critical to making the SHARK Belief formula work for you.  All successful people continue to learn about their trades, their businesses or their major purpose in life.  Once you know the path you want to take, you can begin to seek out and acquire the knowledge specific to helping you reach your goal.

Commit to Life-Long Learning

Lack of knowledge is no longer a valid excuse for failing.  Rather, it’s the lack of acquiring and organizing specific knowledge into practical plans of action that results in most failures.  Think about it; if all it took was vast amounts of knowledge, then the majority of our teachers and university professors would be rich and successful.

Take responsibility for your own education and acquire the specific knowledge you need to be successful.  Never stop learning.  Acquire all the knowledge you can about your specific aim.  But most importantly, apply what you learn and take action towards your goals.

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Develop Your Superpowers

Bill Gates and Warren Buffet were asked what superpower they would pick if they could only have one. What did the two richest men in the world say they wanted? The ability to read superfast!

Incredible! Even after having achieved massive success and gaining more wealth than anyone in the world, these two individuals truly understand the value of knowledge and just how powerful it is to process information quickly and continue to learning.

Determine what you need to know, then begin your quest to seek and apply that specific knowledge.  Invest in your mind and it will propel you to the next level.



Your Mind is the Foundation

It Starts in the Mind

The most important element of the SHARK Belief philosophy is Beliefs.  This includes everything about your mind such as your character, your thought process and motivations.  Your psychology must be managed and improved if you are to reach the levels of success you’re capable of.

Your mind is the bedrock foundation to your success.  Your psychology, thoughts, and beliefs all form the ultimate foundation upon which you build your achievements and your life will reflect your thoughts.

It is through the mind that you first consider possible goals.

It is through your mind that you gain knowledge and understanding.

It’s ultimately from your mind that you decide to take the necessary actions that lead to new habits, skills and accomplishments.

Remember, You become what you think about most of the time. Success starts in the mind.


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Build A Skyscraper

You can often tell how high a building will be built by looking at how deep and strong the foundation is. The construction team may spend several months planning, digging, pouring and reinforcing a strong foundation before a single story of a skyscraper is started.

Conversely, the foundation for a single family home may be nothing more than a slab of concrete a few inches thick and is completed in a few days. While the skyscraper foundation requires more time and action, the end result is spectacular and orders of magnitude greater.


“Anyone who stops learning is old, whether at twenty or eighty. Anyone who keeps learning stays young.

The greatest thing in life is to keep your mind young.”  

– Henry Ford


Your mind is much like this in the sense that the stronger, deeper, and more developed your foundation, the more likely you are to realize big dreams and achievements.  Which are you?  Have you stopped developing and settled for a small and simple life or do you continue to find new ways to improve yourself, motivate yourself, and dream of making greater impact?

The choice is yours, you are either building a little house or building a skyscraper.




Never Stop Developing Your Mind

Unlike the skyscraper’s foundation however, your mind is a highly complex machine that can be reprogrammed and continually improved so that your foundation continues to expand and strengthen. You can simultaneously build your skyscraper while deepening and reinforcing its foundation so that greater heights can be achieved.

Learn to apply the SHARK Belief process to all aspects of your life and you will be amazed at how much more you will accomplish!   To learn more about this success philosophy, read the SHARK Belief Overview.